by Hayley Golden
The role that my sister has played in my life cannot be put into words. No matter how hard I try to depict her, I can’t. Not because I can’t think of ways to describe her, but because there are no words or phrases good enough to describe just how amazing she is.
Throughout these past few years, it’s become very evident to me that siblings, specifically older siblings, have a substantial impact on our lives, whether we realize it or not.
This impact is much bigger than that of having a friend to be around and talk to. Siblings shape and conform our perspective on the world through their personalities and ideas.
Growing up, my sister, who is 28 months older, and I never had the newest gadgets or the fanciest toys, but to us it never mattered because we had each other. At the end of the day, singing and dancing with my sister (including performing with our band, “The Pink Firecrackers,” in the front yard) was way better than any toy my parents could ever buy. Together, we created memories that will last a lifetime.
As we grew older, we grew as people. Although we no longer prank call Verizon on my grandma’s old flip phone or collect caterpillars and keep them as pets, we still share that same bond we did when we were younger. It’s a bond of gratitude, love, happiness, admiration, imagination and value. It’s the kind of bond that warms your heart just thinking about it.
When my sister went to college at Iowa State, a mere three hours away, I was nervous. I was terrified that the bond we had been creating for the past 16 years would be torn apart. For the first time in 16 years, I was horrified that I would have no one to look up to; no one to watch out for me. As we went our separate ways for the next few months, it made me realize that having a sibling creates a lasting impact and an unbreakable bond no matter how far apart you may be.
I cannot begin to imagine what life would be like without my sister, and to be honest, I wouldn’t want to. Siblings not only change our perspective on the world, but they also change who we are as human beings.
Through my sister, I have learned more about myself than I ever could without her. I have learned that I need space and time alone every once and a while. She has contributed to my perception of social issues and injustices and influenced my taste in music, my passion for adventure and my childish sense of humor.
My entire outlook on life has been shaped through her examples and opinions. She always led an example of care and gratitude. Whenever she said “please” and “thank you,” I would follow in her footsteps and repeat the same phrase. My sister helped me develop my personality, beliefs and opinions, and for that, I will always be thankful.
At the end of the day, siblings are more than just family. They’re therapists, role-models, leaders, teachers and most of all, best friends. They form our outlook on life and the people we become. I am incredibly blessed for the bond I’ve created with my sister, and for the memories we will continue to make.