Unless you plan on living in mom’s basement for the rest of your life, there is a strong chance you will not benefit from over-involved parents.
A helicopter parent is officially defined as “a parent who is too overprotective and takes an excessive interest in the life of their children or child.”
While helicopter parents initially have good intentions, in the long run their parenting methods can be detrimental to a child’s development.
When we are younger, it is necessary that our parents be involved, but as time goes on, we need to be allowed to make mistakes in order to grow. It is only natural to want to protect children from harm, but this also prevents them from valuable life experiences.
When you make a mistake, the consequence becomes a learning experience; opposed to your parents trying to scare you into cooperation. The more life experiences one has, the stronger character and coping skills one develops.
This makes for more productive members of society. If a child goes through a life without struggling on their own, the real world will be a harsh awakening. In the real world, your mom won’t be there to hold your hand when life kicks you in the shin.
It is a dis-service to shield a child from the realities of the real world. We must struggle and make some mistakes in order to grow into our own person.
Hovering hinders kids from developing healthy coping mechanisms. This makes them more susceptible to develop mental problems such as anxiety and depression.
When we are finally off in the real world, it will not be feasible to call your parents every time a problem occurs. You need to learn to be accountable for the decisions you make. If you are incapable of making your own decisions when you have to deal with a problem, life will more than likely be a struggle for you.
Constantly involved parents breed sneaky kids. It is only natural to want to rebel when you constantly have parents hovering. Rules are a necessity of life, but, too many rules can create a tense relationship. Tense relationships are difficult to maintain and are often unpleasant for all parties involved. Hovering around your children instills the idea that you do not trust them.
Honesty is the best policy in regards to relationships with your parents. If you are open about what you are doing, where you’re going and who you’re with, your parents will be more likely to let you do as you please. There needs to be a mutual trust between a child and parent in order to prevent an overly-involved parent. Therefore, they have no reason to constantly be hovering.
Our parents grew up in a completely different world than we have grown up in. The way in which they grew up allowed for more personal freedoms.
The media has a knack of almost exclusively talking about negative things. This has naturally bred a fear in parents. The creation in new technology has allowed them to track our every move.
Due to this, there isn’t an inherent need to trust their children.
Make mistakes, struggle and most importantly, grow. Know that your parents love you, so love them in return, but in the end, help them see that their hovering proves to be more detrimental than helpful.
Written on behalf of the Network Staff by Hailie Rydel.