By J1 Reporter Aker Ajak
“I have been directly told it’s because I am a girl,” a freshman who wishes to be anonymous said. Many girls at Marian live this life of deep-rooted misogyny. In simplest terms, misogyny is “the dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.” It distracts from the girls’ education and damages their view of women. The issue of parents of color treating their children differently based on gender has yet to be talked about in a broader sense.
Parents of color tend to treat their sons with more leniency then their daughters. Many sayings such as “Mothers love their sons, but raise their daughters,” prove this point. “Yeah, she’s definitely more lenient with him [brother] when it comes to discipline,” sophomore Omaima Lado recalls.
A handful of girls don’t want to come to terms with this. Not only does it affect the self esteem of girls, but degrades them as well. More than one girl says this does happen. “I get disciplined way harder than my brothers. I’m held to a much higher standard than them,” junior Davia King said.
This ties into the fact that girls have to focus both school and taking care of their siblings. Girls are told they are born with motherly nature and are prone to want to take care of children. This is not the case with all girls at Marian. “I, personally, don’t even want kids. I don’t have a motherly bone in my body,” junior Geonasha Agbeletey said.
The social norm where girls have to be pious while boys get to practically do what they want. This comes into order with siblings. The male siblings will have more freedom when it comes to dating than their female siblings. Many accounts of this happening to Marian girls regardless of race, although some Marian girls of color say it happens to them more.
“There are some things I have to be more aware of because of the stereotypes placed on girls that look like me,” a sophomore who wished to be anonymous said. This is because of stereotypes already placed on girls of color for being “fast” or “getting pregnant easily.” Girls of color essentially lose their innocence in the public eye way faster than girls who are not of color.
“My brothers can have anyone over, but if I do, I have to stay upstairs,” junior Olivia Matthews said.
The real reason is never told to these girls. It is always just because they are girls. There is never a real reason as to why girls of color are treated differently than their male siblings. “Maybe it’s because men are seen as a gift. I know in some cultures, it’s distasteful to have a girl first,” sophomore Tahmina Gafurova said.
Many girls hope for change in their families because those girls believe daughters are just as good as sons. “In the future, I think it will change,” junior Nayah Mbliain said. Until then, girls of color may still be treated differently than their male siblings at a disproportionate rate according to their words.